Also, there is no pair-mating species in which one sex—usually the male—doesn’t have to perform some sort of grooming ritual or performance or battle to attract the attention of a mate. Humans are no different.

Men and women alike used to accept they would need to cultivate attractive traits in order to attract a mate—bring something to the table, so to speak. Charisma and humor have always been big winners for men, in business, politics, dating…

If you want to call that being a “dance monkey”, I now completely understand why you have had poor success and this is your “reality.”