I think that what is going on online is pretty different from what is going on in real life. Online, women seem to hate all men, de facto. The algorithms bring the loudest and most angry voices to the top as rage-bait for us all.

Meanwhile, in my real life, feminist women continue to take good care of their sons, brothers, fathers, and male partners and friends. There is no vitriol. Only occasionally will someone trauma dump "all men are..." into a real face to face group conversation, but in those moments, a gentle call out is all it takes to have the person realize they are generalizing based on pain and trauma, not due to a correct perception of reality.

The sad thing is that our collective all-or-nothing prejudiced attitude toward ANY group deemed "bad" (men, women, immigrants, white people, rich people, conservatives, liberals, queer people, cishet people, etc.) is a sign of a HUMAN population so psychologically and neurologically stressed out--and even traumatized--that a huge number of us can no longer be objective about threat risk or tolerate anything out of our comfort zone.

How you solve that problem, and get everyone's amygdala's to calm tf out starts with turning off the rage-bait of the internet. Reality is just not that hostile, mean and angry.