The logical fallacies, appeals to "nature," and toxic poly tropes are really abundant in this article. Relationship orientation is a spectrum between polyamory and monogamy, (with ambiamory covering the vast middle ground). Humans, being rational beings who are not slave to our biology at all, choose what works for them. Comparisons to animals to justify human choices is inapt, to say the least.

There is a huge number of people who have tried polyamory and discovered it doesn't work for them. Even in some Native American cultures which have accepted polyamory for centuries, most people form monogamous relationships, simply because it's just easier.

The capacity to be attracted to or love more than one person is NOT the same as the desire to juggle more than one romantic relationship. A great many of us just don't care for the complexity, constant processing, and diffusion of time and attention that comes with poly relationships, no matter how we feel about people. Attraction in humans is just brain chemicals, not marching orders.

Polyamory is NOT a viable cure for stagnant relationships. In fact, poly is known to make existing relationship problems much worse. Nor should poly basically function like serial monogamy where you effectively backburner or demote your older partner instead of giving them the dignity of a formal breakup. NRE should not be a crutch for a weak sense of self in need of external validation and constant excitement. Yet, people recommend engaging in these forms "toxic poly" all the time, including in this blog.

I was poly for almost 30 years, in every possible polycule configuration, and I found "the lifestyle" mostly awful, and full of toxic behaviors that only come with this lifestyle. I choose today to be monogamish because, like a lot of people, I generally do NOT get bored or lose sexual interest, even after 10 or more years together. In fact, my interest tends to grow as time passes and I know my partner better and better. I'm really good at keeping the spark alive, keeping my life interesting and busy, and not going into relationship autopilot, which is exactly why I don't really have the bandwidth for more than one romantic relationship.

I am happily "polysaturated" at one partner, and not for one second do I believe that I am somehow denying my "nature," by not acting on my attractions or impulses. I'm way more human, autonomous, and rational than that.