You are 100% DEAD WRONG about charisma or “game.” Confidence, humor, emotional intelligence, and warmth (charisma) MAKE attraction for women, way more than looks. But if you cold approach, all we have is looks to go on! Swipe left, unless you’re Jason Mamoa.

A man who has far less in the looks department, but has charisma, knows how to take the time to *get to know* women in a non-threatening or indirect way—understanding that MOST women hate a cold romantic open, but respond readily to humor and gestures of friendship. In this way, we get to know YOU, and the internal traits that make you awesome.

For men who aren’t conventionally attractive, charisma is your best chance. Fortunately it can be cultivated, but you’ll have to practice socializing with women out in the real world a lot more, maybe even make friends with a few, who might then set you up with their friends. We love to set our friends up with good men, but we have to know you are a good man first, and that takes you using that charisma.

Learn to be genuinely friendly, at ease, and playful with women and they will be at ease with you.