You recently wrote that you hadn’t approached a woman in 12 years. This means you are basing your belief that “women have absurd standards” on internet content, not on real life experiences.

If you actually go out on the town on a nice summer evening when lots of people are out on dates, you will see all SORTS of couplings, and lots of people dating what looks to be “out of their range”. That’s because most of the world—women and men alike—aren’t as vapid and superficial as internet influencers or the outrage algorithm would have you believe.

Women in the real world prefer men with -self confidence;
-economic security (you don’t have to be rich, just able to support yourself and contribute equitably to our goals);
-hygiene/healthy care about one’s appearance;
-HUMOR/playfulness;
-kindness/warmth (not “niceness”); and
-social skills/emotional intelligence.

If you have these things as a man, you have what is known as “game.” (I guess it’s called “rizz” now.) And when you have “game,” women will adore you whether you’re short, bald, out of shape, or average income. We all know of that guy who gets all the babes, even though he’s a skinny, balding sales manager at a car dealership. It’s his charisma, his game, rizz, whatever. I usually date that guy!

The traits most women prefer are largely attainable traits. But not if you believe what the interwebs are saying about women, and refuse to improve yourself or even try to BEFRIEND a woman, much less ask one out.